Hey, Let me get you a drink.

You look a little parched. You may be “thirsty” and I don’t mean that you need a drink. This day and age the word “thirst” does not mean what you think. Well actually, it does, but it’s more geared towards a person’s longing or desire for another person. It’s the approach that makes it a bad thing.

Normally, it was the male who was thirsty. I think about the old cartoons when a male saw an attractive female they started howling and salivating.  Now, women are just as thirsty, if not even more thirsty than the man. I think this post is personal to me because I see it every day. They think they are being discreet, but they are posting pictures on Instagram letting it all hang out. It’s not because they feel so good about their bodies, it’s because they need somebody else to say something about it to feel validated.

You see them. Every weekend, they are putting on their club clothes and posting it for the world to see. Oh, don’t let them get bored, then they post pictures of them laying in the bed with their breast hanging out. They go to work out and they post pictures of their “new” body in their workout clothes with their behind, so conveniently, poked out. Thirst has taken on the form of attention grabbing to cause a reaction out of a man. Truth is, If you had been yourself from the beginning, he would’ve probably still talked to you. If he didn’t, then he wasn’t there for the right reason anyway.

You put yourself out there in a way that only attracts those howling and salivating men and then complain that there are no “good” men around. You cannot blame a man’s reaction to what you give them. It’s his nature. I’m not saying it’s ok for a man to haggle you until you give him what he wants, I’m just saying you can’t get mad at his reaction to what YOU put out there.

Yeah, I see you ladies. All of you are beautiful in your own way. You don’t have to be naked to get attention. You don’t have to expose yourself to get a man. Your beauty within will shine anyway. You are worth a lot more than you accept. Sleeping with a man doesn’t mean you’re pretty, it means you have a vagina. Sex doesn’t validate anything. Inboxes and DM’s don’t make you a more desirable WIFE.  

Please don’t get caught up in the hype! Think for yourself and quench your thirst with self-love!